Still on the sidelines here cheering for you Chic. I'd be happy to loan out any & all of the Pride of Cats on my house too - our Gizmo has perfected shooting a raised-eyebrow-stink-eye look that makes you know that he means... "Hey Bozo - back the eff off or I may be tempted to scratch at your eyelids."
((((hugs)))) Just keep doing the next right thing for you - Fandy is right, his tactic to wear you down only works when you engage & the longer you go without engaging, the more of your energy you are using to fuel yourself in other, more positive ways. I hope you have a BEAUTIFUL day!