Five,
can you get into some counseling or go to Al-anon? It would probably help you a lot! You need to talk to someone, about the situation. If you don't begin to change things, nothing will change, as they say. start small, but go in a positive direction, if you must.
you can always talk here. others understand, they really do.
It is very hard to live with someone who is wasting her life. Can you imagine what you want your life to be like?
keep posting. things probably wont get better on their own, you know?
take care.