Hi Solo and welcome!
I can relate to some of how you are feeling. My AH and I are over-the-top affectionate with each other. I stopped all physical contact with him when he started drinking again. I'm finding it easy, but he is not.
He has diarrhea-of-the-mouth on a good day and now that he is working towards recovery he talks more about his feelings.
I want to leave but am afraid of making it on my own. The debt we have as a result of his pill addiction is in my name only.
Sorry about your daughter. Have you thought of an Adult Child of Alcoholic meeting for her or alateen?
Set boundaries, take care of you, keep going to al-anon, and keep posting =)
{hugs}