Mechuen,
Sadly, if you spend enough time around here----you'll find that these pattern of
events unfold in a fairly predictable manner. Monogamy in the LGBT NYC sphere may not be
a huge priority----but YOUR health certainly is!
You wrote: >>>>>love the guy that I've lived with for 25 years, but I see clearly that he is not the person that he was even 5 years ago. He's meaner, he's more selfish, more self-absorbed. I don't like this new person very much. I still see flashes of the old person, just enough to keep me roped in, but I know that the old and the new person are one and the same. It doesn't matter who he was yesterday; this is who he is now.<<<<<<<
(We SOOOOOO understand). With me, it was "I am not going to let a middle class 50 Y.O. lady who has ALREADY lost her home, husband, kids......lose EVERYTHING ELSE."
Alas, it is not our call to make----and never was.
With that being said, you are always welcome here...
and will find understanding that is difficult to find elsewhere.