He is kicking me out of the house, stopping phone, cable, internet, health insurance for me and my kids, car insurance. Etc
Get an emergency custody order immediately. A DV place might be able to find you a pro bono attorney to help with that. See, he doesn't have the right to remove you OR the kids from the health insurance. Once the divorce is finalized, he can remove YOU -- but he can't remove the kids.
You need legal help. Now.