I second the notion of contacting domestic violence resources in your area. They will direct you to free or reduced legal resources that will help you navigate through this. It may sound like everything is against you but it most likely will not be. He will have to pay child support and maybe even spousal support. In many cases he may even have to pay your lawyer fees. He most likely will have to cover health insurance at minmum for the kids. Accusing and proving it in court are two very different things. He can accuse you of a lot but actually proving it to the judge is a whole different ball game. You are not as shot down as you think you are. Hang in there and find out what your rights are.