searching peace...please take the advice of the people here who have been to Hel* and back---such as the ones who have just posted. Hawkeye is right--I think you are feeling overwhelmed, right now.
Don't ever miss a court date---get a continuance. Above all, don't let them scare you off!!
He is threatening things that he can't even legally do!! He is hoping that you will get scared----don't give that to him.
How do you do this? FIRST thing--contact the domestic violence people, again--and, explain that your situation is urgent. ASK for a court advocate; ask for legal assistance.
They can also help with the other issues that you are worried about.
Find out if there is a victim assistance program in your court system, also. The dv people will know about that , also.
There IS help, there ARE options. Your part is to reach out your hand and to ask for help.
You need someone walking by your side. Fear of the unknown is often the biggest problem.
Make some calls TODAY--and you will feel better...I promise.
We are here for you and we will walk with you...
You can do this. You will be stronger than you ever imagined....
dandylion