Peace- you mentioned a criminal case? If you are the defendant than the state is required to provide you with an attorney but you must act.
Your husband cannot turn off the utilities unless they ar e in his name and you can have them switched.
He also cannot drop the health insurance on the kids.
But, you need to take a day off from work and apply for help. Food stamps and such. You also need to go to the county courthouse or check online. There should be free or low cost forms you can use to instruct you on how to file for a continuence on the criminal case and to counter sue for the divorce. He is trying to scare you into giving him what he wants. Dont let him