Originally Posted by
RolyPoly 
I told her that I was struggling to identify with people and that I felt I needed a sponsor that would enable me to mold the program and 12 steps to fit my own specific needs.
In AA, we don't mold the program to fit our needs, we mold *ourselves*. We act our way in to different and new thinking. Not the other way around.
If AA is to be your method, jump in with both feet and work the steps.