Cherra I read through your post on the Alcoholics forum. Couple of things - your husband has some signs of pretty deep alcoholism aside from his actions. Black out drinking and DT's indicate that.
You also mentioned that he has a history of stroke.
It would be in his best interest to medically detox. Some people need this - quitting drinking cold turkey can be dangerous for some people. A detox is not going to get him sober permanently, but it will be safe environment for him to come off the alcohol and possibly pain killers as well? Is he still actively medicating while drinking?
You mentioned the "I have only had one drink" line - um, I don't believe that. So common to say it should be flown as the official flag of the A.
I saw you got some differing opinion regarding being able to reach and maintain sobriety on your own. The one point I do not believe any recovered A would agree is that there is such a thing as moderation. One drink is too many and a thousand not enough. In this case and every one like it its all or nothing.