Thanks everyone. Firebolt- all plans are off. I appreciate both you and Fairlyuncertain's suggestion about getting my own help...I am working on that too.
Ofelie- its a strange illness. Sometimes he seems so healthy but then when he is drunk as a skunk, he looks so old, weathered beyond his years and there is something distant and lost in his eyes.
Confused- it is amazing how similar the stories sound. Mine fled to his enabling friends who happily passed him a drink while confirming that he was "a good person"...the friends even went so far as to tell his mother that he was just fine, just fine...
And Lil- yes, it is crazy. Mr. Hyde has emerged... trying to steer clear of him since he is my next door neighbor...eh, I know, but he just seemed so convincing when he declared his love.