He's an addict, He's an addict, so what does that mean???
Thanks to HealingWillCome, I was able to read a posting about the workings of the addict mind ... I am struggling to wrap my brain around the emotional removal...no wait, the emotional and verbal abuse that has come from a once-upon-a-time gentle, kind and loving man.
This idea that his addiction is driving him and controls his choices and treatment of me and his family is still so perplexing... he looks like the same guy! His friends all say he is fine...oh wait, they are saying that to me between drinks...
So, who can elaborate on the general alcoholic behavior and addict choices? One minute he loves me with all of his alcohol-soaked heart but when I ask him to moderate for the sake of our relationship...all the sudden he has to reconsider his feelings and...well...he's pretty sure that he was mistaken...No! He is absolutely positive that this relationship is not going to work...
What about our commitment ceremony next Spring? What about moving in together next Fall?
Oh...those things sounded really nice until I turned into a "mean" person...