Originally Posted by
ALittleBitCrazy 
…he's sober because I've cut off ties with the people in my life he doesn't "like" - my friends, his sister, the interventionist we worked with, to name a few. (He feels strongly that I "overshare" his private business and that I just need to keep my mouth shut and talk to him when I have issues with his drinking.) SO - is there an "enough"? Is there a way to even measure that?
Dear, they always "don't like" people who are clued in to what's really going on. Of course he wants to isolate you from these people because he is fighting to maintain your marriage and doesn't want some other person influencing you by reminding you of the awful things he has done.
Just a suggest never let anyone dictate to you who you can and cannot be friends with. Your sister? You have cut off ties with your family to keep him sober? Um no. There is nothing you can do or not do that will keep him sober. he may be sober but he doesn't sound recovered it sounds like he is still quagmired in A thinking.