2 things I have read here so far that have stuck with me.
1. Detaching with love. I need to know how to do this.
2. Amy55 (?) said in another post about being addicted to fixing the problem. Bingo. I am a nurse...I work with babies, some are in withdrawal from a number of drugs. I "fix" them and all my other patients. Why can't I fix this? I know in my head I can't.
I'm so glad to have found this forum. I am leaning towards leaving but want to be thoughtful about it. I am seeing my therapist (again!) in 2 weeks. I am working on finding an al-anon meeting.
AH saw his therapist today. He isn't seeking out AA and I don't want to "make him" I want to see what he will do on his own. He's doing other things like laundry, cooking, chores etc but I could care less about that stuff.