ALittleBit---it really isn't a bargaining thing (when dealing with addictions an toxic relationships). Not....if I do this much....or, if you do that much......
It is about finding peace, and, a contentment deep inside, and living a life where you can thrive--not just tolerate or exist.
one recovery group a week and counselor once a month seems like a barest minimum.
A recovery program--esp. in the beginning is very intensive and takes a lot of time and effort--It is the TOP PRIORITY if a person is really serious on changing their live from the inside out.
darlin'--it isn't your job to be his cheerleader for his recovery program---he has others to do that job (recovery program people, AA members, etc.).
The fact that he is trying to dictate to you--in my opinion, is not a good sign. It is up to you to conduct yourself as you see fit. If he doesn't like it---he doesn't like it.
He is not your Daddy.....
There is a saying that each person needs to "stay inside their own hoola-hoop"
dandylion