Interesting turn of events.
I cannot advise you Pippi. I can see how tempting it would be to think a face to face 'real' conversation could potentially wrap up your never-ending D. However, he has a PD and yet is charismatic. Would you just get drawn back in? Only you can answer that question. I'd sleep on it and try to work out in your mind what are you getting out of such a proposed meeting? If it is just to propose a conclusion to all of the divorce, maybe it is OK. But if it is to try to manipulate him and play a few old rounds of your relationship, maybe it isn't the safest approach? Is he setting you up to hurt even more? Is he about to lose his job?
Tread carefully.