I have heard this from a lot of al-anon people. Do you think it is a common thing among us????
I think it is the one biggest commonality. And I don't think it is about us being control freaks or growing up in an alcoholic environment or having a skewed childhood. I think it comes down to our lives moving out of the scope of what we had envisioned and we get all caught up in trying to get things back to where we think they
should be.
That is only the beginning because we can't force anything or anyone to be what they are not. We keep trying tho until we run, or run out of wind.
I am convinced that if we run we will repeat the same behavior because we have still not accepted that we cannot force change. Until we accept that we can only change ourselves we will continue to repeat the same behavior.
Somehow, somewhere I was absent when that lesson was taught and I had to learn it the hard way.
((Hugs))
JT