Hi Oddkins - your Step 8 really resonates with me. I thought so often 'if my family don't know then it will be ok'. Firstly, they usually did suspect (99% of the time). BUT more importantly, now that I am sober if that thought enters my mind I think a little harder ' so even if I did get away with it, I would know - this is my recovery - I don't want to induce that sort of guilt and remorse upon myself and I certainly don't want to start the cycle again'.