DD sorry to hear about the bad contact. My mom was a medication abuser/addict. Complete denial to this day, even in the nursing home ! I feel you on that note.
My wife called me out on drinking, but now that I'm not, I've observed that it became her number one excuse to be as ugly and nasty to me and blame me for any issue out there, because " I was drunk".
I think me stopping has been so hard for her and she's now in a pickle cause she's used to being a smart---, and now she doesn't get to say whatever she wants without just looking like a fool. I mean, she's earned griping rights, but every person has their own demons. Maybe it'll get better. It IS better than me being drunk.