right on with four months!!!
Community is important.
I can relate on the spouse who drinks thing. For me, she's not my spouse at this point but a very close partner in love and life. She actually very seldom drinks and when she does only a beer, two tops. Still - even at that level it can sometimes mean some challenging feelings for me.
That said - my sponsor is 27 years sober and his wife drinks without problem in similar fashion. He has no trouble with it whatsoever and in part it's because he has been open with her and she with him and because he keeps AA in his life and works his sobriety daily.
Anyway, welcome.