Today I know that my life becomes unmanageable when I'm trying to control the uncontrollable and manage the unmanageable... again.
If I'm trying to exert control over anything (or anyone) but my own actions, I'm involved in a lost cause and on my way back to the insanity I lived in prior to Al-Anon recovery. At that point, I've lost the "wisdom to know the difference" that the Serenity Prayer speaks about.