Originally Posted by atalose

Awareness, Acceptance and Actions.....

And they must come in that order in order to bring sanity back into your owe life.

Awareness- that your sister Is an addict, you didn't cause, you can't control it and you can't cure it.

Acceptance- that no matter what you do, say, love, withdrawl daily support, stop buying her food, buy the entire grocery store out and ship it to her house, yell at her, ignore her. None of it is EVER going to CHANGE her......she has to want it for herself.

Actions - set healthy boundaries for yourself when it comes to her behavior. Learn NOT to react until you've discussed things with someone who has more experience with addicts and can respond in a more healthy way. Go to al-anon, learn to detach emotionally, we don't withdrawl our love or support we just withdrawal from Un-helpful enabling behaviors that allow them to continue on the self distructive path.

Know that's it's ok NOT to answer your phone when you've had enough. It's even OK to turn the dam thing off if that is how you can get some peace.

And most important I'd to learn that guilt is a killer, they use it to hurt us and gain what ever it is they are seeking and when stew in our guilt- that stress slowly sucks the life out of us.