Kimmieh....sheesh....your list & my list almost the same. Spit on and peed on too.
Letting the dogs run loose around the neighborhood. The weird stuff he would cook when he drank and leave a huge mess, use my good pots outside on a fire, etc.
That said, I had some of the best meals in my life with him as well. So many amazing memories. I know that man is just not there ...at least for me ...now. Too much trust is missing for me to be able to have real fun with him again. At least for a long time. And I am tired of wasting so much time on him and what he is going to do or wants. But I still miss him and I am not
sure I wouldn't do it again.
But yes, it is better to focus on the bad. just heard there was such a thing as "financial" abuse. I can add it to my list too.