For me, there is a vast difference in perspective in whether you "want to quit drinking" or "you want sobriety".
I want sobriety more than I want to quit drinking...if that makes any sense. I do better when I focus on the "YES, I want sobriety" rather than "NO, I can't drink".
I am reaching, striving, working on and for sobriety cuz I wants what is in this "land". I am walking through the open door trying to earn my keep in this new place...
I am not perched on a chair looking sideways at that closed door wanting what I used to have. Been there, done that. That is not to say I won't look back over my shoulder from time to time. The work comes in bringing my eyes again back forward.