A special situation? He's not special At. All. Do you ever watch Dr. Phil? Sorry to be so harsh, but you're hiding behind diagnosis of things that have not really been diagnosed. Have you ever heard of a Life Coach Therapist? They specialize in cutting thru the BS excuses and advise on how ppl need to get off their @$$. Unfortunately that needs to happen when they're late teens and 20s. He's done this so long with you helping him who knows. Again, I know this sounds harsh to you but I would be doing you a disservice by just pouring on the syrup.