Yeah, my SO tried to "engage me into treatment". I didn't get help until I wanted it. I'm sorry to say a book was not going to be enough. It had to come from within.
No person can get another sober unless there is a desire to be sober. The responsibility is the addict's, not the loved one's. Plus, alcoholism is not just a behavioral problem. Just "getting" your SO to not drink won't work. If only quitting drinking solved our problems, recovery would be easy.
My advice is to take care of yourself and kids (if you have them). Get yourself into YOUR recovery. AH will follow or he won't. His is not your destiny unless you sign up for it.