Good Morning and Happy Wed to you also!
Enjoy your new fur baby, they are so special! That's great.
It seems you are having a lot of healthy realizations about yourself, and that is a super great thing. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated or isolated, those things are abuse and are things you can control. I always say to myself, and to my children, You Cannot Control How Someone Acts, but You Can Control How YOU React. I firmly believe that. And many times it is how you react that stops that manipulation eventually. My X is a manipulator. However, I don't react to it nor do I participate in it. In the last year or so of our relationship I would actually tell him, "Your words are simply a tactic to try and manipulate me," and I would walk away. When he saw I did not believe 99% of what was coming out of his mouth, amazingly, he shut it a lot more!
Tight Hugs. Keep working on you and making progress!