sunday,
Did you ever wonder why he could leave and not care, and then all of a sudden show up again when you are starting to see more clearly?
This is sort of in response to something you mentioned earlier, about how you went crazy and sent like 50 or so emails and voicemails.
I did the same thing.
Think about it.
They take any kind of attention as attention, whether it is good or bad. You stop texting, calling, emailing or whatever, and they get worried that your attention is not on them.
So they come back because they feel like they are losing control.