You can wait until it gets a lot worse, which it will. I was also addicted to an alcoholic (recovering with no program) and realized it wasn't about love, it was about need. My sick need for the drama, to keep the focus off myself and my screwy thinking. The focus was on him as well, because that's what I choose. It was when I realized I didn't trust or respect him as a person that I was able to walk out. Alanon saved my sanity, probably my life.