I am begining to work that out. My husband and I started dating in college on a rebound when I told him I wasn't ready but he was such a great guy and we "had fun"
Making dinner and getting drunk
Watching baseball and getting drunk
Studing and getting drunk
Going out to eat and getting drunk
That evolved into getting engaged getting married and careers and getting tipsy me getting drunk
Raising children having a beer or two and me getting drunk to have some relaxation while getting everything done around the house that needed to be done.
Having date night having a few drinks me getting sick on the way home and hungover all the next day
Wow thank you for asking, it is sad when I write it out. We have a "wonderful" life from the outside and I have nothing to complain about. These were all my choices, and I love my family fiercely. Having trouble transitioning my relationship with my husband from drinking partner and lover to partner and lover I am having some difficulty.