crushedjd, glad you checked in again. I'd say that what you're doing is keeping the peace on the outside but eating you up inside, and thus not all that healthy for you. She is indeed engaging in deceit by hiding her drinking after you've gone to bed, and this isn't a good sign, as you know.
Others have already said that things will continue to get worse, and I would second that. I'd also second the suggestion to get yourself to Alanon, sooner rather than later.
There is a saying in Alanon: "Let go or be dragged." It might be helpful for you to consider what you might gain by beginning to let go versus continuing to be dragged...