Mountainman, I agree what she did was wrong and drinking only help her get past the guilt of what she did, she has admitted she was wrong and was very passionate about screwing up and promised it was stopped, but how do I trust that when she can't admit her drinking is a problem, when she now tries to hide her drinking.
Hawkeye, you bring up a great point, my conundrum is I'm not sure things aren't working for me, needless to say I'm not happy to feel like I'm faking it, but part me wonders that I have been so suspicious for so long am I just paranoid. We're in a much better place then we were months ago, but the drinking continues and now after telling her how concerned we are about her drinking she has tried to hide the drinking to after I go to bed at night. So again I ask myself how do I trust her when there is any deceit.