Please don't feel you are whining, it's a horrible situation to live in. Okay, you made a mistake, but how long can he continue to punish you for it? His actions are making your resolve crumble, he needs to support you while sober and ignore you when drunk - he's got it all backwards.
Note of caution: a lot of people here tell me I can't quit for my partner, I have to quit because I want to. Is there a bit of this going on with you?
And as i understand it, being emotional is par for the course at this stage of sobriety.
One good thing to note - no where in your post did you mention being tempted to drink. GOOD ! and as for when you get home - go about your day - ignore him right back. You need to concentrate on YOU for a while, not worry about your spouse. Leave him to his sulk, take that walk and have a nice evening.