Originally Posted by
GetMeOut 
Oh, and she would frequently crack jokes about drinking or being drunk, or tell stories of drunken stupidity she and her friends engaged in back in college. Even send me emails making light of drinking. I would just shake my head like, "Doesn't she get it yet?! Is she trying to get me to find humor in something that just isn't funny to me anymore, at all?" I even told her my sense of humor about drinking was gone - too many bad and painful memories - but she still didn't seem to grasp what that meant, or simply didn't care.
All in all, I think it's best we're no longer together.
It sounds like she was actively poking your problem, which is weird. Yeah, she probably didn't get it at all, or she was insensitive, or both. It's definitely for the best you're no longer together. Find someone with more compassion.