Originally Posted by
gbanon 
Honestly I know I should probably leave, there is really nothing "I" can do to help him or make him stop that decision needs to come from him, but it seems very hard to do so. Perhaps if I did it would shock him into making that decision - or not in which case it doesn't really matter what I do except for my own sanity.
In the end, the alcoholic may choose drink over everything, including loved ones
as hard as that is to accept.
So you're right, choose what you need for your own sanity.