and I'm taking your advice to not do something idiotic.
I think "idiotic" is much too harsh a word. None of us consider you an idiot. But, speaking for all of us, what we do encourage you to do, going forward, is to stop and consider whether the course of action you may take regarding her is
in your best interests. And that is going to require a gut check and a lot of self honesty. The price that you have paid thus far has been tremendous. And none of us wish to see that continue.
God bless, man.