Just touching base with you all. My A(x?)GF was released from Rehab today. I do know this to be true. I haven't contacted her, even though I *do* emotionally want to, I know she's working on her program. I know that *I* need to work on a program (discovered co-dependency)... so, I'm not going to contact her, as suggested, for 30 days. I know you don't mind, but I'm going to be lurking here for the next few days/weeks until I can be comfortable. It will not be easy. I've invested enough in her emotionally and mentally that I feel like I *should* be contacted... but if there's one thing you folks have taught me is that this is the way with addicts. Selfish... and the codependent (no matter how illogical...) selfless... I know it'd be a toxic conversation for us both. So... I'm still here, with the online naranon people... and I'm taking your advice to not do something idiotic.
Thanks for being there. You folks have been incredibly helpful and continue to be.
Chin Up!