I'm back with update. It's been 4 years and he came back to live with me.Long story why but slp me someone. It all started again. Last February he nearly died of a perforated duodenal ulcer caused by his drinking and was back on the wine as soon as he was let out of hospital, despite 4 doctors telling him to never drink ever again. So he's sleeping in the front room, we 're selling the house, splitting the equity, divorcing and he's going to live back in his home town and I am taking the younger children. I've wasted 18 years of my life on him and he's still saying he's cut down. I've realised he will never change cos he can't. Enough now.