Originally Posted by FireSprite

I'm not an al-anon member, I pick up most of my info about the program here from other members of SR. Hopefully someone else will come along with better insight or to correct me if I have misinformation.

Al Anon helps you understand the limits of your control as it pertains to your qualifier. They help you return the focus of your energy back onto yourself so that you can be as mentally strong as possible in order to work on things like acceptance, detachment, staying, leaving, etc. It puts the focus back on you within a support network of people who understand your situation having been in it themselves to varying degrees. It helps you build a toolbox of tools to use when you are faced with challenges, and those tools can really be applied to all relationships...... not just specific to dealing with alcoholics or addicts.

As you get stronger & more educated about addiction, you become better able to make decisions like when is "enough is enough" or what you are willing to accept.

HTH!