Like you, I belong to both sides of the street and I know firsthand how hard it can get both living with and loving an alcoholic and also relapsing. I drank after 5 years but I made it back and so can you. They don't call us double winners for nothing: us "codalkies" are a resilient and tough bunch!
It is only a bump on the road of recovery and I hope that you know you can always message me and we can always meet in chat if I am around my computer and not on my stupid cell phone.