Hi Michelle,
Its really hard I know and all of use have been where you are at one point or another. I recently asked mine to leave my home and that has pain with it also.
I would be interested in others opionions about the fact that he is not participating in any form of recovery when he quits. That is troublesome for me and mine never did either, thereby leading to relapse after relapse and a very nasty attitude. In any event, I hope you find what you are looking for...for you and hope you begin to heal.
Sarah Elizabeth