Hi Michelle,
Glad you found SR. You'll be glad you did and be amazed at the education you'll get.
I drive 45 minutes to my meeting every week. It's worth it for me. I understand about your ankle though. That's really tough.
You're to be commended to what you didn't do yesterday. You let him get all nuts and maintained your cool. Well done!!! Looks as if you're on the right path. But the next time, let him make his own coffee.
There's a literature to be found and you might look up an alanon chapter, if there is one in your general vicinity and ask them to send you all the free pamphlets. If they will. I don't know if they do, but considering your circumstances, it's worth a try.
Stand strong, head up and learn the serenity prayer.... God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
((((((((((((Michelle))))))))))))))