Thank you. I will grieve for my son for the rest of my life in my heart. I miss him so much and can only imagine how you feel missing your's for 20 years. It is still a very fresh nightmare for me. It was so sudden and unexpected. My son who had turned 27 on Sept 27 2001 died on Oct 10, 2002. He had ulcertive coloits that was diagnoised a year before that and he was taking a steriod for it. He got a cold and developed pneumonia and by taking the steriod ( in larger dosage than the doctor prescibed ), he couldn't fight off the pneumonia and he died. He had just come home from the hospital a week before and was taking the medicine the doctor gave him. He was still having shortness of breath, but fluid got into his lungs unexpectingly and after rushing him back to the hospital and him being on a respirator for a day, he didn't make it. I didn't know until he died after talking to his doctor that he had been taking more dosage than she told him to because he was having stomach problems, I cry often at the drop of a hat. He was my first born and his life and career was gone at such a young age. I have a daughter who is 22 and they were likt mute and jeff. He was the one who was responsible and dependent. He had his won apt, worked for the city and was well loved by all. He had a standing room only attendance at his funeral that was escorted by the City of Philadelphia Police. I am getting teary eyed now so I better go....