Originally Posted by
TryingToLearn 
I have separated my money but the bills keep coming in and he expects me to pay for them.
Well, that would just **** me off to no end. I'm sorry you feel responsible for that. Time to get out. He's a grown ass man making horrible choices and expecting you to deal with it. That's a crappy thing to do. Yes, Alanon can help, along with therapy. You are not called to cover his mess.
I hope you can make the last step soon and sever your tie to this. Good for you for taking the steps to get there.