Thanks, I don't ever respond to her comments, because they're always out of context & usually blaming me for everything. It's quite amusing in some ways. When I asked her where her message of support & reassurance to her daughter was after she found out that SD had been told by my FIL that if she drank again it would be SD's fault, her response was the "my children wanted for nothing etc"comment. I think there's avoidance on her part, so perhaps she doesn't answer direct questions because she knows I'm right? God forbid she would ever admit that though! The way I see it she's not going to get anywhere with SD until she does start to openly admit that it's all her fault. Will that day ever come? Probably not, because I am the enemy!