I'm still not sure where I stand on disease/choice. I think yes addiction is a disease but it's a choice to continue to drink and refuse all help and seek sobriety. I don't know really still trying to get my head around it all.
My AH told me he wants to be on his own to do what he wants and drink. I don't think it's because he doesn't love me but I think he is controlled by his addiction and is lost so somewhere deep inside of himself.
Lillamy I am angry that he could do this to her. Yes it is hard to pin her down she works full time and shift work but he knew all week that he would see her at the weekend as it was her weekend off!! He says things to her like why haven't you been round to see me. I have told her that it is not up to her to run after him and after what he has done he needs to make an effort for her. He is being so selfish yet probably doesn't even realise he is!!