Firsprite-
I can't remember if I have posted this book on this side of the forum, but it has helped me a lot.
"Eating in the Light of the Moon," by Anita Johnson.
I read it in context of my own recovery from an eating disorder, but it is really about how we as woman can use food.
I also love anything by Geanne Roth.
For me the food stuff was/is sabatogue. Good for you for being present enough to bring this all on board.