Focus on what you can bring to others. That is why I am here. I feel my sobriety has become stagnant. The couple guys who have asked me to sponsor them were unresponsive shortly after asking me for help. I have been searching for a way to be more helpful, and I thought about this forum which I have browsed as a non-member at times over the past few months.
Why can't I do 12th Step work on the Internet? Why wouldn't that be a valid way to grow, for myself? These are real people in recovery, so if I look to be helpful here then it must have a positive effect.