The problem is my husband is an alcoholic and to be quite honest , he's not very sexual at all because of his alcoholism . half the time it doesn't work. being honest and so our sex life is pretty boring and that's not even the reason . now it's him not willing to admit his problem, I'm trying to get help for mine and it's making me resent him ....and I've never cheated before that's not something I do like to take my marriage seriously But something is seriously wrong with mine. He threatens me and gets drunk, obnoxious etc. maybe I just need someone to actually care?? Not sure but something needs to change ASAP. I don't want to become "that person" I just don't.