Hey Jewelie,
Have you checked out Al-anon? I attended it when I was younger and it was great for getting some support.
The dilemma is someone who says they want a future with you, but is happy to drink themselves to an early death, that no matter how it's rationalised doesn't add up.
The helpless feeling is understandable as that is the reality, only he can make the decision to change his life, family and friends unfortunately become onlookers, which is why support for yourself is important.
SR is also here to give you plenty of support!!
